Terrible Thing to Wait Until You're Ready...
As we conceptualize our resolutions for the new year, we begin to romanticize the idea of who we will become...
However, looking back at previous years, how often did you achieve that romantic idea of yourself through the resolutions you set?
Over the course of years, I witnessed how powerless my resolutions actually were in effecting change. Finally, I derived a formula that has successfully transformed my life when put to practice.
When you're imagining this ideal, new self you wish to create in the coming year, start to observe what it is about him or her that's different from who you are today; not the result, the difference between you and the result.
If you're set on promotion this year, is the difference asking for what you want or wholeheartedly believing your worth? If you're aiming for a better body that you feel more comfortable in, is the difference getting comfortable with being UNCOMFORTABLE exercising more or eating less pleasurably? If your desire is to spend more time with loved ones and less time with work, is the difference in being honest about where you are spending your free time rather than the idea that work is absorbing all of it? If you wish to be less stressed and enjoy your life situation more, is the difference not in changing the stressors, but rather creating a simple tool (like breath work) that allows you to immediately dissolve stress in any given moment?
The point is: holding a romantic picture in your imagination does not get you there! You must choose ONE action to execute daily.
When we get lost in romanticizing, we overestimate ourselves and imagine that we're able to conquer all challenges by easefully implementing a myriad of changes all at once. THAT'S NOT POSSIBLE. We are capable of instantaneous change: ONE STEP AT A TIME. Most change means undoing habit and habit runs deep on many levels of our being (body, mind, emotions, etc) By selecting one moveable action, we begin to chip away at the habits that are keeping us from positive change. Thus, setting things in motion that lead us to our ultimate goal... that ideal, new self.
So, what are your goals for 2015? What does that new self look like? Now, dwindle down what seems to be the most fundamental difference between the real and ideal you. Trust yourself, what comes up is exactly right. Then, start now... because now is as good a time as any.
"It's a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you're ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any." --Hugh Laurie