Self Regulation

It’s Friday and most of us are relieved for it to be the end of the work week. Did you know that alcohol sales are highest on Fridays? No doubt because our stress is at its peak and we’re looking for a way to self regulate those feelings.

The ability to self regulate is paramount to well-being. Often times, we choose poor habits and solutions to moderate our stress, like over indulging in substances that alter the chemical structure of our brain and hormones. Don’t get me wrong, I love wine and enjoy having a glass or two at the end of a long day. But when we lean into it to cope, we’ve turned it into a quasi way of self regulating the stress response. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It’s imperative to find other means that regulate our inner state that set us forward, rather than bio-chemically setting us back. Yoga. Meditation. Working out. Going for a walk. Soaking in a hot tub. Taking a hot shower. EFT Tapping. Belly breathing. Or simply learning how to talk to yourself in a supportive way. That’s my number one way to self regulate—talk to myself like a consoling best friend. The poem Guest House by Rumi really sums up this way of working with yourself thru tough inner states...
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This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

Kiara McBain